Feeling Amazing at 50

Hi, Hello everyone! It’s me! How are you all feeling? Today I am proud to be 50. I feel amazing and you can too!

I am really happy that you are here reading my blog. As you probably know, if you have been following me on facebook, I was completely new to blogging. I didn’t really go on social media apart from to keep in touch with my relations all over the world. Showing up live and being present on my platforms was alien to me.

I challenged myself to appear live every week for 6 weeks at the end of March. At the time, the thought of it was so nerve wracking, but the transformation has been remarkable. I’m not just talking about how I appear on my lives, although you can see the change in my confidence. I am talking about how pushing past this barrier that I was so scared of, has opened up many possibilities for me going forward. I can’t help thinking that if I had stayed scared on the other side and not crossed over this roadblock, I would still be stuck where I was. Instead I decided to face these fears head on and got excited about each live. Don’t get me wrong, I was nervous but I shifted these feelings of nerves to excitement instead.

My Why!

I am not used to being exposed in such a way. Putting myself out there, and being opened to criticism and showing my vulnerability is not me. I am usually reserved, cautious and safe. If you asked me a year ago, what I would be doing now, never in a million years would this have been part of my plan. However one big question triggered all this-

Why is it, that people of the same age, can differ so greatly in their mindset, their health and general outlook on life?

I saw people of a similar age to me already settling for that feeling of being old, as their destiny, like it’s a natural process in life. And that when we get older, our health deteriorates and we get dependent and start to slow down, like it’s part of the natural process of getting older. However, there is nothing natural about that. I felt the effects of feeling old when I started to struggle to get out of bed with a stiff back and joints every morning around my mid thirties. I was overweight and never ever thought of self care. My primary focus was Jim and the kids.

However, I am lucky that something inside triggered me to make a change. I wasn’t ready to accept that it was all downhill from here. If I felt like this in my mid thirties, how would I feel in my forties and then my fifties……. It made me think. So I decided to join a gym and started to meet like minded people. As I got healthier and started to lose weight I started feeling better about myself.

My Message

I’m telling you this because I realise I am lucky that I managed to shift my mindset. The problem I see is, that there are many people who don’t have this shift and may need a little push. Many are going through life, taking whatever life is throwing at them. I call this “being a passenger”, I heard it somewhere on social media. People who are just along for the ride.

My mission …… Sorry I don’t like using that word, because it makes it feel like I am someone special with some big purpose. I am not special however I managed to turn my life around, which means you can too. You need to tell yourself it’s time to live your life. Are you who you want to be? Who do you want to be, that is the question?

It’s time to start your journey.

Get in the driver’s seat.

Stop being a passenger.

Live Agelessly

Don’t let age stop you from doing what you want. It’s never too late! I sometimes….ok maybe a lot of times I forget how old I am ( no it’s not my senile dementia kicking in yet) and I still think I am in my thirties. I surround myself with people, young and old, who are positive and have lots of energy. I laugh with the young and learn from the old, and love listening to their stories and experiences. I avoid negativity and people who just zap my energy.

I want you to realise that you can choose how to live your life, how you want it to be. You just have to really want it! This means finding your “Why”. Your passion! What gives you fire? What gives you energy? If money didn’t matter what would you spend your time doing?

When people get older many lose their identity and forget their passions. It’s time to rekindle that passion within you and find what you enjoyed doing when you were younger?

Let your struggle become your strength

In the last few years I started discovering my true self. And in recent months I have really pushed myself and faced my fears head on, which is where I have begun to see the biggest change and growth in myself. For example one of my major fears was my fear of speaking live, and being out there facing this challenge gave me a big sense of achievement. So talking from experience, whatever struggle it is you want to conquer, prepare to feel uncomfortable. Push past your comfort zone and over time what once used to be your struggle will be your new comfort zone. Where a lot of people fail is when they back off when things start getting hard. But stop yourself from doing that. That is when the change is happening. Keep pushing and you will reap tremendous rewards.

Think back to when you were a toddler learning to walk. You would take a few steps, and when you fall you would get up. Then you would take a few more steps and fall and you would get up again. You would keep doing this, no matter what, until you mastered it. Be like that toddler!

6 of the most important lessons I have learned

Here I’d like to share with you my 6 most important lessons I have learned-

1. Don’t take life too seriously – As we get older we are more and more aware of how precious time is. I make sure I laugh every day. Have fun!
2. You don’t have to have it all figured out, and you don’t always have to be right.
3. Don’t judge and don’t give advice that’s not asked for.
4. To have unconditional love and respect for my parents – They brought up me and my two brothers while running a business, and I never heard them complain. And we had the best childhood we could ask for. I am grateful for that.
5. Be kind to ourselves – Be our own friend. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves when we do something wrong and really beat ourselves up about it. We are kinder to our friends in the same situation. Give yourself grace!
6. We are in charge of our life! – We can’t blame anyone for how things turn out. Not everything is going to turn out the way we want it. However we are in control of our attitudes, our feelings and our actions.

Getting older is great. You can feel amazing. It’s not something to be afraid of. Not convinced?

10 reasons why getting older is awesome

Let me give you 10 reasons why getting older is awesome:-

1. Having confidence to tell it how it is because let’s face it, we are less bothered about what people think. And any negative thoughts are usually from people that don’t matter.
2. We have old friends and life long relationships.
3. We have more “me time” to do what interests us, and learn new things.
4. Being more appreciative of even the small mundane things in life.
5. Having better perspective on things because we are wiser and have more experience.
6. We can be with people we love and who love us back.
7. Our kids become our friends and even start telling us what to do.
8. Embarrassing our kids.
9. Feeling better about life and being stronger, calmer and happier.
10. Being thankful for growing old, as many die before their time.

On that note, you should celebrate the fact that you are here. You are amazing and you should feel amazing every day! Start loving and taking care of yourself. We are all given one chance in life. So do your best and be the best version of who you want to be!

Get inspiration and tips from this blog. I will be posting ideas and sharing resources that I have found useful. If you want a platform to share and get additional support from like minded people, click here to join the facebook group “Ageless Lifestyle with Kath”. We would love to welcome you.

Tips to get you started

• Find what works for you. It will be a process of trial and error. Just because one thing works for someone else, it doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for you. If something doesn’t work for you it is not a mistake or failure, it’s a win as it means it’s another thing that you can strike off the list of things to try.
• A good place to start is to visit my home page and from there you will see links guiding you step by step, starting with Mindset. You will learn the importance of mastering your mindset. Self awareness is key .
• Be patient. Be consistent. Enjoy the process. Be that toddler!

Live Agelessly

Kath